What Public Speaking Taught Me about How to Overcome Fear – Queen of Manifestation

What Public Speaking Taught Me about How to Overcome Fear

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I did something this weekend that I had never done before.

I got up in front of an audience of high school students and gave a powerful talk about manifesting.

Now, you might think, “Well Jen, you’re the Queen of Manifestation… It probably was no big deal, right?” But you see, I had a fear of getting up in front of a group high school girls from Brooklyn and giving a live talk.

The good news is, I pushed through that fear. And because of it, I was able to inspire and impact over a hundred girls.

Me conquering my fear of speaking in front of the high school students at the QueenGenius conference.

Me conquering my fear of speaking in front of high school students.

 

The experience made me think about how you can overcome your fears to move you forward in the direction of your dreams.

I realized that I had been teaching other people how to conquer their fears, and I needed to practice what I preach!

The famous Marianne Williamson quote below was true for me:

β€œOur deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
– Marianne Williamson

So I give you permission to let your light shine.

You have unique gifts to offer to the world. Let me help you move through your fears so that you can live out your greatness!

Watch this week’s Manifest Mondays episode to find out how to finally conquer fear once and for all:

Now are you ready to kick your fear in the butt, or what?!

Remember the next time your FEAR comes up, it’s just False Evidence Appearing Real.

Your greatest gift lies behind your deepest fear.

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If you know that, then why wouldn’t you want to do the thing that scares you the most?

Instead of looking at what might happen if things go wrong, think about what could happen if things go right!

You can also reflect on something from your past that you were so afraid of doing, but ultimately that thing led to a beautiful experience or reward.

For me, that’s becoming a mom. I was most afraid of the experience of labor, of what it would actually feel like to be responsible for another person. But now that I’ve moved through that fear, I can say with certainty that my daughter is the best gift I could have ever asked for.

You must have faith in your ability and know that you are worthy of your dreams.

We all come up with reasons why we can’t do it. You might think that you don’t know enough, or you don’t have enough support or money. But those are just excuses.

If you have an excuse, then you don’t have to take action and you won’t disappoint yourself. Even if you don’t know how it’s going to happen, all you have to do is ask for help.

The best way to overcome fear is to take action.

 

I invite you to do something that you’re afraid of – and see how it feels afterwards. It could be sending an email out asking for support, making that phone call, going to that networking event, publishing your first blog post, etc. Remember not to get stuck on the outcome. The universe might have an even better plan for you than you’ve imagined. So stay open.

It doesn’t have to be perfect.

If you wait until you know it all, you’ll never take action. Just do what you can. Put yourself out there, and trust that you will learn and grow through the process. You will get better through practice. But unless you actually do it, you’ll always stay where you are: Afraid.

Now I want to hear from you. What’s the one thing that you’re most afraid of, but you know will be the most rewarding? Now what small action step can you take right now to move through it? Tell us in the comments below! We all can benefit from your experiences.

xoxo, Jen

Leave a Reply 9 comments

Haridas Reply

Great Jen . Your posts and talks really inspire me too. After retirement I was relearning Santoor in a different way to acquire skills for accompanying Ghazals , a very popular genre of Indian Music. Even after learning Santoor for 23 years I was afraid of virtual mistakes. Slowly I am overcoming this by doing just the thing that I feared for long. And with amazing results. I can fully voucher your theory that GREATEST GIFT LIES BEHIND DEEPEST FEARS.
KEEP ON THE TRACK. I WISH WE COULD BE NEARER
WITH LOVE
HARI

Elena Reply

I loved it! You have this ability to make me feel giddy and happy about my fear now. Thank you Jen, this was both needed and very helpful to hear!

    jen Reply

    Awesome Elena! you’re so welcome. xoxo

Abby Reply

I think for me it’s marriage. It terrifies me. And also child bearing.

    jen Reply

    Beautiful Abby. I hear you. Giving birth for me was probably the scariest, yet most rewarding thing I’ve accomplished! πŸ™‚

Anne Omland Reply

Great article and video! I love the MW quote and your FEAR acronym. So powerful!

Thanks for sharing!

    jen Reply

    Thanks Anne! Glad you enjoyed the post. You are so welcome. xoxo

Debra Mazer Reply

Hi Jen! πŸ™‚

Thanks for the inspiration!

This sounds so silly… but my fear today is switching over my newsletter service to Mailchimp. I’ve been on Constant Contact since 2009 + it is familiar, but I know Mailchimp is my next best thing.

So, here goes!

xo,

Debra.

    jen Reply

    That’s not silly at all Debra! Love it. You can do it πŸ™‚ xx

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